There's a belief that the closer you are to God the more good fortune we will have, but this is measured in terms of the world. This is not the case. God gives us blessings and sometimes they are financial but he does not spoil us even if we talk about Him all the time. Spoiled Christians are more like greedy kids that have justified their behavior by saying it is from God. This is like Spiritual class warfare were the closer you are to God the better off you are. Any good deception is partially true so it is with this as it is correct except how we go on to define closer to God and better off incorrectly. Closer to God is not doing more Church activities or studying the bible more. It's like saying he's a hard worker because he makes a lot of money it could be true but it may not be. Christians get closer to God through the cross in their lives and there is no other way. The cross is deep pain in our life that you attribute to God's work. This could be loss of money, friends or health. These are the very things that we wrongly use to track our relationship with God and others. We use labels as a way to define how we relate to others. For Christians the label should be brother or sister. We should behave as a healthy family not always agreeing but at the end of the day encouraging each other in our relationship with Christ and wanting the best for each other. Kids have to make mistakes to grow, sometimes the same one over and over and so do we. Likewise Christians grow from mistakes. It is not the same mistake for everyone or in the same order. You cannot judge someone's progress by the type or frequency of mistakes. But most of all you cannot judge your own progress as God seems to keep this a mystery from us.
Kids are driven to maturity over time by society to "act their age". It's not so clear cut for Christians. I think of it as a road that is typically noted by the cross and rest stops that God has set up for us to recover and enjoy His riches. It is a place where we are the closest to God as He has just shown Himself to us in a very real way on the road and He has taken us though it. But outside of every rest stop is a manmade place like a old hippie camp were the celebration continues long after God wanted us back on the road. This is a place where we regularly get high on past times with God. The rush of being with God fades until we pull in other travelers from the rest stop to renew the celebration. So at this point while we are praising and talking about God, we have actually started avoiding the cross and the revelation and enlightenment that comes from it. We have traded a direct line to God for stories about someone else's time with God.
The hippie camp is man controlled Spirituality and if someone wanders on to the road they are pulled back. Spiritual class envy keeps everyone in line. The cross is talked about but not often experienced. It has been replaced by things that are more controllable like theology, man's view of God. The church should have enough grace and empathy that it can hold those on the road and those at the rest stop at the same time. The Church tends to be like the farm were today the cross is avoided and past crosses are cherished.
What we need is revelation but we have lost our way and replaced revelation with knowledge. Our mind using knowledge is eager to control and prove what we like and disprove what we don't. When we count on our knowledge of the bible to be our guide then we are open to a merging of mind and culture with our understanding of the world. In my younger day I had friend at Church that saw God in every movie. This is zeal and imagination run wild. But every Sunday pastors all over the world are dismantling parables to extract more than the point the author had in mind. We treat the parable as holy and every good point extracted from it as just as holy. This is as bad as finding God in every movie. Theologians study history and Greek in order to separate culture and emotion from the pure Word. This gives us a truer sense of the Word, but not complete enough. It's just another way man replaces revelation with himself. Even Christ told the disciples that it would take the Holy Spirit to reveal to them what He was saying. Paul wrote his letters not to be revelation but to redirect them to the Church and Christ so they would be receptive to the revelations of the Holy Spirit. We should not be looking to the Bible for wisdom and guide lines to live a more Godly life, but as a way to free us and open us to the Revelations of God. We cannot teach revelation only open each other up to it.